Conflict is caused by a temptation to attach to an identity that is not your own, every time. As you do this, you also attach to ideas of separate identities for all of the players in the dramas your are experiencing.
In the context of the experience of conflict, time is very useful. It is a means of healing. By this we mean that is appears to be the way that healing is delivered. Stopping, even for one moment, taking one breath, questioning one conflicted thought–all of this is very valuable.
Look at the separate identity you construct for yourself in times of conflict. Is it an unappreciated identity? Is it one hard done by? Meet the victim. Who or what wants these stories about a separate self to be true? This is just the momentum of ego. The momentum can be slowed, stopped.
Look at the identities you construct…
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